To get your ex back, you first need to understand what went wrong. And there are a couple main causes for relationships to break up. To fix the relationship and get your ex back, you have to begin by understanding which of these reasons caused your relationship to go in the crapper.
The first reason relationships end is because you wronged your mate. You cheated on them, you verbally abused them, you ignored them, you fought with them too much. In some way, or in several ways, you wronged your mate, you did not treat them well. This is one of the most common reasons that relationships end. We’ve all probably wronged our mate some, but if you do it in a major way or continually over time then you are going to lose them.
The second cause for relationships to end is because your mate wronged you. Perhaps they cheated on you, or were abusive with you, or drank too much, or fought with you too much, and you couldn’t deal with it. You had to say enough. If your mate cheats on you and you do nothing, you are just being a doormat. So kicking them out or ending the relationship is often the best choice you could come up with. Being wronged by our lovers is a common reason for ending a relationship.
So if you understand why it ended, you are already on your way to being able to get them back. Each of these two causes is different, so each will need a different reconnect strategy.
The first thing to do to get your ex back when you have wronged them is to do a Deep Apology. Not just say you’re sorry and mean it, that usually doesn’t work. There are several steps to an effective apology. The very first step is to admit to them what you did that hurt them. No excuses, no justifications, just admit that you wronged your mate straight out.
Another step that most people miss by a mile is one of the most powerful ways to get your ex back. And this step is to allow your partner to vent. Instead of you talking and blathering on about how sorry you are, admit you did something wrong and then ask your partner how what you did made them feel. Then Shut Up! Let them talk. This is a key part of how you to to do the whole get ex back thing and make it happen. You have to let them release their negative feelings, get them off their chest. Because most people miss this crucial step, their apologies land short. They leave their mates full of lots of anger. You have to let them vent.
So, before you apologize, if you can admit what you did wrong and then let them vent, you will be on your way to making a deep apology that can allow them to forgive you and take you back. The link at the bottom will take you to a no cost lesson on the other steps to a Powerful Apology.
Another main reason things end is because your ex wronged you in some major way. It could be they had an affair and you ended things. But now you want them back, but you have mixed feelings. Can you trust them again? A key here is to vent yourself. Let them know how what they did made you feel. Do this before you have them promise not to do it again.
You don’t want them to argue or justify what they did, you want them to just listen. So tell them that up front. “Just listen to me for the next few minutes, don’t argue!” Then dive in and get your feelings off your chest. This creates room for deeper forgiveness.
There are more details to all of these methods for getting an ex back. But this is a good start that can get you on your way when you want your ex back. See the links below for more help.
You can discover more about this and other Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in an e course about Get Your Ex Back Without Waiting Weeks. Joanie S Angel teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never discovered In School here at Help For Relationships.











