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When trying to get your ex back, a mistake people often make is to say I'm sorry a hundred times. Even though it doesn't work, we keep hoping they'll take us back.

There are some things you can do instead of say I'm sorry a hundred times to get your ex back. And they will be much more effective. To begin with, don't say I'm sorry if you did nothing wrong. Don't say I'm sorry if they left because of relationship drift, where they just aren't that into you anymore. Saying you're sorry when you did nothing wrong comes across as pathetic and manipulative.

Next, if you did something wrong that you need to apologize for, that's a good thing to understand. To get your ex back, you need to understand what caused the break, and if it was something you did, you better be ready to apologize for it.

Before you ever get around to apologizing, do a few powerful things first. To begin with, let's say you committed adultery. You cheated on your ex. They kicked you out and are feeling a lot of betrayal and anger.

Instead of rushing in and saying I'm sorry, start by admitting what you did wrong. Your ex needs to know that you understand you did wrong. So own up to it. Do not justify or try to explain yourself.

Next, get them to vent. Before you ever say I'm sorry, get your ex to tell you how they feel about what you did. Let them get their bad feelings off their chest. If they want to yell at you or cry or attack you, you take it. You don't argue or defend yourself. You just let them vent. Venting releases their negative feelings some.

Take both of those steps first and you are way ahead of the ball game. After you admitted you did wrong and heard their feelings about it, they can hear you. Now your apology can be heard and accepted.

So don't make a hundred apologies. Make one, after you do those two things first. If you do this right, you can often get your ex back in hours instead of weeks or months.

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